Chappy
What speaks louder to you, words or actions? This is what I love about my chappy, he does things for me that show me that he cares about me. Sure he tells me every day that he loves me, but it’s the things that he does that speak louder to me than anything that he can say.
In a passing conversation a few weeks ago I told him how I miss having my own home and having my garden to tend. My vege patch was my solice, my relaxation, my bond with mother nature. I never brought it up again, but he knew how much I missed it.
I visit my chappy on the weekends, because he lives in a different town from me. Two weeks ago I arrived at his place on a Friday evening and he told me he had some surprises for me. His son took me out to the back lawn and there it was, right where his garden shed had previously stood. My chappy had removed his shed, levelled the lawn, painted the fence, and built up a garden for me, framed and painted. He even hung a sunflower on the fence to make it look pretty. All just for me to do with whatever I like. I was so stoked, I still am. Nobody has ever done anything for me like that, the gesture really blew my mind. I planted my garden full of vegetable seedlings that weekend and I can’t wait for it to grow and grow.
Chappy did other things too, simply because he wants me to feel at home at his place. Being a man cave his loo and bathroom had no locks on the doors, and I was often being busted by his kids for being naked in the shower. He installed locks onto the doors, and also had a new mirror fitted onto the bathroom wall so that I no longer have to stand on his weenies kiddy step to put my makeup on. Bliss.
It’s the gestures that I appreciate, being considered and regarded as important. My chappy does things like this all the time and I love it. It’s the actions that speak louder to me, having previously been in a marriage where my hubby would use those 3 words I love you and expect that whatever problem had arisen would then magically disappear simply because he uttered those words. Words mean nothing if there is no physical doing to back them up. I figured this out the hard way over te years, particularly when I was asked ‘why do you love him, what does he do that you love?’ That got me thinking, desperately trying to come up with an answer. I had nothing.
And now I find myself in a relationship where if somebody was to ask me that same question I can answer it with many many reasons as to why I love my man. It’s because he is a doer, he does things that show that he loves me and to make things easier for me. He puts the effort in because he wants to. Not because he has to, just because he wants to. And he is so much fun to be with. A chicky babe couldn’t wish for more.
07
Nov
Hehehe I’m just picturing your standing on a hippo to see in the original mirror.
hang on to that one Maz, sounds awesome!
Stand by your maaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaan!
How far away does he live from you mandz?
The little step is pink but no hippo, I do know the very ones you mean tho! And he lives an hour away Laz, not too far.
We’ve got a hippo… the little fella uses it all the time… mostly to get into stuff he shouldn’t oughta
definately not far mandz, i travel that daily to work!
..better than the 3 and 3/4 I used to travel to see the ex.
I dont mind the drive, and theres always a bottle of wine waiting for me when I get there, and the beach being nearby is an added bonus, he is going to take me out surfing this summer which should be good fun
Aha, sounds like your chappy lives near my parents. Unless it’s the other more easterly beach…… Or it could be the southerly option….Damn, Vegas is too close to too many beaches!!
Youre on the right coast but a little too high up, head the other way for bout 40 minutes from where your parents live. Another clue would be to look for the lady on the rock.
Ah, gotcha – very cool
Theres a lady on a rock in Napier… but I’m guessing seeing as I’ve not heard from you saying yer in town it’s not there!
Theres also the fact that napier is a lot further from Gems folks place
1 point to Mandz
whats that you say? Your password doesn’t work anymore? you can’t log in to make a comeback??
The other obvious fact would be that napies is more than an hours drive from where I live..