The waterfall and the Taniwha
It’s funny, the things we hold onto from our previous relationships. When my marriage ended I went through a cleansing phase, which involved me going through absolutely everything I owned, and disposing of or passing forward any items that reminded me of my ex husband.
It suddenly dawned on me today that there is something vital that I have held onto, something very small but emotionally huge.
I have kept my wedding rings, all three of them. Why, I found myself wondering, would anyone want to keep such a personal item? I certainly don’t want to remember the wedding, it was a freaken nightmare.
I don’t want to remember the marriage, that was a freaken nightmare too.
And lord knows I don’t want any reminder of my ex husband looming over me as I rebuild my life.
So why have I kept the rings? Is it because I wanted to pass them onto my first born when she becomes old enough to wear them?
This got me to thinking very seriously. Why would anybody want to give a child the wedding rings from the failed marriage of that childs parents?
Doesn’t that seem rather demented?
So I have come to the conclusion that I simply must part with the said rings, not sell them, not pass them on to some other loved up shmuck, part with them.
Tomorrow my rings are to be tossed over a waterfall as a token for the Taniwha.
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Oct
i met the taniwha, last time i was in roto vegus, nice bloke, pity he gets a bit of bad publicity
Do you mean political activist Tama Iti? A very staunch and proud man, who stands up for his people and his land. Any publicity is good publicity, it gets people talking. He really is a lovely well spoken man.
I actually have my Mum’s wedding ring from when she married my Dad (they broke up when I was 5). Mum gave me the ring when I turned 16 and it is extremely precious to me as it signifies that my parents did love each other at some point and that I was born out of that love. It is obviously up to you to do what you feel is best with your rings but from the other side of the coin, I am eternally glad my Mum kept hers, I have worn it every day since it was given to me and even though I don’t have a very good relationship with my father, the ring is something I will never part with.
Thanks for sharing that beautiful story with me Gem, and I apologise to you if I have offended you with the demented comment.
Unfortunately my marriage had a lot of bad, the final being my ex setting fire to everything the children and I owned. My girls will never forget that day and the trauma is ongiong for them.
I don’t believe it is in their best interests to have any keepsakes of the marriage, due to many events that took place.
I hope you can understand my point of view a little better now. xx Maz
Yes, that certainly puts a different perspective on things! As I said, you need to do what you feel is best and I think in your shoes, I would probably do the same! Although I could think of something else to throw to the Taniwha (I’m sure you have thought of that too!)
Hahaha wouldn’t that solve all yer problems? I wonder how that would stand up in court though?
“I’m sorry your honour, I was merely making my cultures’ required sacrifice to the Taniwha”.
Certainly sounds a whole lot more legal and cheaper than a hired gun.
Heh heh That Bobbit guy must have been such a prick!
I heard Lorena Bobbit (Johns ex-wife) was in a car accident recently… yeah apparently some dick cut her off.